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[terrie]

What do you do when you realize that someone you thought was your friend, probably never gave a shit about you? I told someone that his actions had been hurtful and insulting towards me, and he not only didn't apologize, it was like I'd never said anything at all. He completely ignored it. A mutual acquaintance confronted him about his behavior and he acted like I was irrelevant. Now, I'm revisiting two years worth of interactions and wondering if any of it was genuine, or if I was seen as a hanger-on who he'd just as soon see go away.

I suppose I should be glad that all I wasted was time. He never stole from me, physically hurt me or humiliated me. He just reduced me to a non-entity. But that's enough to do harm. The people around you are supposed to make your life better, but I can honestly say that my life is the worse for having known him.

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[rosewildeirish.livejournal.com]

:(

I'm so sorry his actions have hurt you. Some people are unable to publicly acknowledge shortcomings or failures on their part; this guy might be one of them. It's easier for these people to let go of very good things than admit flaws and deal with the aftermath.

You deserve a hella lot better.

[terrie01.livejournal.com]

Thanks. He's pretty much one of those guys who's managed to reach physical adulthood without every really growing up. Luckily, I have many real friends who have supported my anger and hurt, while encouraging me to move past it. You know, friends who act like and treat me as an adult.

[zortified.livejournal.com]

I've had a couple people in my life who were similar. We were friends of a sort, but eventually I realised that I was getting nothing out of the relationship that was worth what I was putting in. I had to ask myself "why are we friends?" and all I could get out of myself was "because the other person will be hurt if I stop being their friend."

Which is not a reason to continue a relationship. Not really the same as your situation, just.. commiserating that sometimes navigating personal relationships is tricky and annoying and stupid. :-)

[terrie01.livejournal.com]

I was headed in that direction when this slap to the fact happened. It was really the final nail in the coffin. I think it means that even if he did change his ways and grow up, we'll never be real friends again, even if we were once. Because he's shown he can not be trusted. Not with the real stuff, anyway.